Recently, the Rev. Tom Schade published a series of posts suggesting that today’s political conservatism is wholly inconsistent with the values of Unitarian Universalism. To those who claim both allegiances, Schade says “Show your work”—how do you get from your faith to your politics? I take issue with this, not because I don’t think the questions are valid, but because I’m not persuaded that it makes sense, given the number of ethical and practical conflicts that we all live with each day, to level these challenges at one particular group of UUs.
Maintaining right relations—with each other, with our communities, and with the broader world—is demanding, soul-searching work. But it’s not work that belongs most particularly to one group or another—it’s the work of all of us. And so, perhaps we can say, to conservative UUs, to liberal UUs, and to everyone in between: Tell your story. Explain your reasoning. Show your work. And then listen, in a spirit of honest curiosity, as we consider the answers. What does our religion require of us, individually and together?
As we examine these questions—stepping up to the plate ourselves–carefully and respectfully, freely and responsibly—we create the safe space that might allow others to do the same. This is valuable, as those who choose to worship among us have self-selected, perhaps more than they consciously know, to invest some effort in the task of living spiritually-connected lives. As Unitarian Universalists, we are not the Nones–those who have opted for a life of secularism–but a religious people who have entered into a covenant that includes invitation to spiritual growth.
So let’s provide that challenge to grow, and Rev. Schade has highlighted some areas where discussion in our congregations might be helpful and illuminating. But let’s also accept that the invitation to self-examination, and the discoveries that follow, are going to change not just the one we think needs to be changed, but us, too. In talking openly with those with whom we disagree, we will be made different, and we need to be. Not because we need to believe in equality of opinion, as individuals or as a movement, but because we believe in the power of stories to shape the world–and to reshape our perceptions of it–and we each must tell our own.
On that note, here is a little piece of my story, as it relates to opinions, values, politics, and our relationship to and with the Infinite. Our minister–let’s call her Jane–occasionally posts an article or meme related to a social justice issue on her publicly-accessible facebook wall. One recent post was about abortion; I responded to it explaining that I don’t think the discussion needs to be all-or-nothing on either side, and that I, for example, am both pro-choice and a supporter of the codification of some fetal rights. Conversation up to that point had been a range of “Amen!” and “Rah-rah!” comments about the original post. After my response–cue crickets. (Jane respectfully acknowledged my post and looked for areas of agreement, but the silence from other participants felt deafening. On the whole, I wondered if it was perhaps shameful in UU circles to even frame the issue as two sets of rights to balance, rather than as an outrageous usurpment of one.)
Not long afterward, some members of my church were socializing together before a meeting, and the topic of the anti-abortion movement in the U.K. came up. Opponents of abortion reportedly staged silent vigils across from women’s clinics, handing out leaflets to women who passed by. ”Those people are just crazy!” exclaimed one member, and the others nodded their agreement. My husband replied that he didn’t think it was that the protesters were crazy, but that they were living their values—different, but strongly-held—in a way that made sense to them. Crickets again . . . and then a hasty change of subject.
I share this example because it is one in which my husband and I hold what is—so far as I can tell—a fairly moderate view [namely, that abortion should be safe, legal, and an option of last resort, one particularly eschewed after the point of viability] in terms of the range of opinions in our society, but which is an extreme view in the context of Unitarian Universalism. I will share more about this, from a different perspective, in my next post. For the moment, a few words about how my take on abortion fits with my larger faith—my response to the calling to account for which Rev. Schade speaks.
I arrived at this opinion—having spent much of a decade information tabling for Planned Parenthood—through my experiences of pregnancy, childbirth, and pregnancy loss. It is a view dictated by my heart and my soul more than by my head, and it’s been both challenged and supported in my journey since then. I have researched and written in the special education context in support of fetal rights—and the rights to life, dignity, and bodily integrity of all who cannot speak for themselves. Far from conflicting with my UU faith, it is my deep concern for the inherent worth and dignity of ALL people that leads me to reflect upon and speak about my own views on abortion, counter to prevailing UU opinion though they may be.
Do my fellow congregants agree with my thoughts about this? I’m not sure, as we haven’t found a space or format in which we can really discuss it [aside: this space is sorely needed, as are the willingness and practical skills to engage, and it's not just UUs that are missing these--it's our society], but my guess is no. Should I be called to account for my reasoning should I decide to stand and speak for what I believe to be just and humane? Definitely. But do I have a higher burden of obligation to do that than someone speaking on the other side, simply because my opinion is less common in this faith? What presuppositions do we make about the values and scruples of those who reach different conclusions—and what do those judgments say about us, as a movement?
To those who would assert that this calling-to-account of some members is not because their opinions are different, but because the opinions conflict with our principles, I ask: how do we get from “our principles” to the intolerance of some theological beliefs within individual UU congregations? How do “our principles” guide our blindness to the empty plate at our own congregational table, or inspire us to do first for ourselves and share with others what is left over? They don’t, of course, but our congregations deal with both of these issues–or in some cases, choose not to deal with them–constantly.
I suspect that we each struggle, at least insofar as our eyes and hearts are open, to discern the meaning and the imperative behind our values, and to live in accord with that. That’s part of why we need religion–it’s hard to live a life of worth and decency without examining our choices. Thus, the hypocrisy we’re talking about today is just easy pickings–it’s visible, and it’s about “someone else.” Just this once, let’s skip the low-hanging fruit and see if we can go deeper into what matters.
The reality is, those who disagree with us are, in general, not crazy. They are people, often people who care deeply about the same sorts of things that we care about, who have arrived at different conclusions. But a common reaction—perhaps even our default reaction, these days—is to view those people as “the other,” and to see them only through the lens of our disagreement on an issue. And there are tangible benefits to doing this. First, fear of the Other can unify a group into a cohesive Us like nothing else—for an extreme example of this, consider the instant national unity, from the mountains to the prairies to the halls of Congress, after 9/11. Further, it feels good; righteous outrage stimulates the pleasure centers of our brains, and makes the complicated, headache-inducing dilemmas we face everyday seem much simpler. And while it’s disappointing, we UUs are not immune to this simplification-by-way-of-Other . . . sometimes it is even preached from our pulpits. (Perhaps this surprises you—I hope it does, actually, as that might mean it is rare—but I have seen it happen. And friends, it is ugly.)
Why is this call to establish [and enforce?] a UU line in our politics happening now? Is it necessary? And where else might we choose to go in the call to deepen our commitments to living our spiritual principles?
More on that soon. In the meantime, I’d love to hear your thoughts on any or all of this discussion.